My wife started this blog recently. I had thought about having a blog all about my family and our adventures for a while, I just never thought I could spare the time to make it happen. And frankly, this blog, at least my contribution to it, may be short lived as my wife will be going back to work full time in a month. Then it will be just me and the girls. Just the girls and me. Me, a toddler and a newborn. Imagine the possibilities. I do want to keep up with the blog as much as I can as a way to connect with friends and family we don’t get to see much anymore since we moved. I also wanted a little something I can do and focus on to get my mind off the demands of parenthood. So I’m writing about parenthood. Most importantly though, I want this to be a kind of journal that my kids can look back on when they’re older. What I wouldn’t give to read the pages of my parent’s journals when I was a kid!
I’ve been a stay-at-home dad since Evie was born. I’m very proud of what I do and of what my wife does (work her butt off), which allows us the luxury of giving our kids the kind of attention and support I don’t think we otherwise could provide. I feel very fortunate, not every family can afford this luxury. That’s not to say that we’re rolling in dough, in fact we just get by, but the hard choices and sacrifices I think are well worth it.
I’ve always wanted to make a difference in the world and I’ve always been idealistic. I realize now that I’ve finally landed a job which I not only love but one which, if Eileen and I do it right, will produce caring, thoughtful and secure people. I think that’s the best thing I can do for the world.
Having said all that, it can be a real challenge and makes me face my own demons on almost a daily basis. For my family’s sake, I’ve had to look at and deal with myself like I never have before, it’s not always pretty. But that’s what makes us better people, isn’t it? Staying at home with the kids takes up all my time. I can’t believe I have a few minutes to even write on this blog! If you have kids, you know what I mean. If you are a stay-at-home parent, you really know what I mean, and feel free to get in touch, I could always use a few pointers. If you don’t have kids I could try to explain it all to you but it’s just one of those things you have to experience to truly appreciate. People told me left and right before Evie was born that my life was going to change, that everything was going to change. I didn’t have a clue.
I’ll contribute to this blog’s home page as well as this page, specific to the experience of being a stay-at-home dad, as often as I can. In the meantime, if you’d like to hear more musings of my life post kids (it’s really all about me), you can hear me on the Oregon Public Broadcasting radio program “Think Out Loud”. I was lucky enough to be a studio guest on their program for Father’s Day 2008, talking all about the changing role of fathers in today’s society. You can listen to the podcast on the OPB website here: <http://action.publicbroadcasting.net/opb/posts/list/20/1192209.page#1298020>